As a human our greatest power is our words. With a single word we can create, inspire, or destroy. Too often the trend is to destroy. So many of the worlds problems have stemmed from the words of a single individual and the power that word or words have had on others. But also we have seen so many changes by people who’s words have inspired and led many to change themselves, their communities, and the world also.
In the past few weeks I have become more aware of the words that others have used around me and how those words have made me feel, act, and react. I then started to look back on some of the things I said to others and how the specific words or phrases would have been received. I realized that not all the words I choose were positive, and in some cases were used to bring down the other (maybe not intentionally) in the hopes of making me feel better or elevate me above.
I feel if I take the moment to pause, think, construct, and consider the words I am about to use, perhaps by being in a more positive frame I might impact the interaction more positively (I don’t expect it to always work), and hopefully allow the other or others, to change their framework and come to the discussion from a better point of view.
I have noticed lately, how I the person I am interacting with is using words and phrases from a more negative or defensive framework, I can see it in body. I see the tenseness in their face, their body is rigid, and they seem dark. So I started to think about how this would manifest in myself, and how my body would be impacted over time. It became apparent that with negative thoughts would come pain, sickness, and overall bad health. So during a few conversations with others, I watch my own body and how I reacted based on their words. What I found was my body would literally shut down and close up when I received or PERCEIVED negative words or phrases from the other, and would open up and brighten when those words were received in a positive way.
So here is my own personal thoughts for moving forward. I will take the time before speaking to think about the words I am going to use, and what will be the impact on the conversation, the person’s mind, their body, and mine. I will also be more aware of how I receive and perceive the words from others. I need to realize that while the other person may not be “attacking” me with the specific words they have chosen, I absolutely have the power to determine if I allow the words to “attack” me and how they affect me.
I would love to hear your thoughts and words on this, and how you think you receive. Please post your comments below I will read them. Also please go to www.facebook.com/stephencaffery.somethingtoshare and leave your comments there as well, or just simply “like” my page (it would bring a smile to my face)
Peace,Light, and Love